Today, I have a plan. I have a plan to become a happier person. I don’t have a plan to become a perfect person, or a plan to be fake and cheery even when I’m upset, but I have a plan to become overall happier. Happiness is in our control, whether or not people like to believe it. True, there are certain unhappy things we can’t avoid in life, but we unquestionably have the ability to make ourselves more miserable than need be. Some people are more prone to making mountains out of mole hills than others are. I am one of those people who do tend to make myself feel worse than I need to. About anything! Eating a lousy meal, spending too much time staring at the computer screen, half-assing a workout,
saying a snappy comment to my mom. (Okay, that last one should warrant some guilt, but you get the point. I dwell on things for too long.)
Pretty flowers Chad brought home for me the other night (for no reason whatsoever).
Last month, I had specific goals I wanted to tackle. You know what? I don’t even remember what all of them were. That just goes to show how having specific goals doesn’t really work for me. I could go back and look at that blog post, but why bother? It’s a new month. I’m starting fresh. I’m not going to make a list of goals that I’ll most likely fail to check off by October 1. There’s nothing wrong with goals, though. I love goals. I’m a goal freak, if you will. I believe that having goals in mind is an excellent way to get ourselves to work harder, and I pretty much always have a few goals I’m working on. Plus, having goals is fun! But that’s having goals in mind, having an internal desire to accomplish something. I don’t want to feel pressure to accomplish a goal I wrote down on paper at the beginning of the month as if it’s homework. If I want to accomplish something, it will most likely happen, because humans as a species tend to do what they want to do. And if I don’t accomplish something I want to accomplish in a certain amount of time, I still have my whole life ahead of me keep trying.
Millet toast with butter and sea salt, scrambled eggs with cheddar and sprouts.
So herein lies my main goal for September: to make myself a happier person by aiming for goals that I want to accomplish, not goals that I feel like I have to accomplish just because I wrote them down on paper at the beginning of the month. I’m going to make an effort to go easier on myself, and not make things bigger deals than they are. Goals are just goals. If I have a goal to spend less time on the computer, but then end up wasting two consecutive hours looking at the screen without moving my feet, then so be it. I’m only human. I’m not going to feel crushed for not sticking to that goal.
Cottage cheese with blueberries and strawberry preserves.
I hope this is all making sense. Sometimes my thoughts go all over the place when I try to write them out or say them aloud. I guess what I’m trying to say is that we should all have goals, but we shouldn’t make ourselves feel bad if we don’t stick to them 100% of the time. Smile in September whether or not you tackle all your new aspirations. Make an effort to make yourself a happier person.
Seen here (pre-milk) with added dried cranberries and raw almonds. Deee-lish.
So everyone, tell me, what are your views on goals? What do you want to accomplish this month? Whatever your goals may be, remember that they are goals. Goals are different than necessities. Paying pills = necessity. Reading more = goal. In other words, I’m referring to things you want to do, not things you’re supposed to do.
Also remember to go easy on yourself and smile in September! Have a nice cup of tea and relax. Tomorrow is already the start of the weekend!